Depression does not only affect the sufferer; it can affect those closest to the person experiencing depression as well. Watching someone going through the effects of the black dog can be painful for loved ones. So, dealing with the issue is important for them too. If someone in your family is suffering anxiety or depression and you want to help, then read on…
The first point to make is that people who are depressed often do not want help. They are not motivated to do anything at all. So you need to know up-front that helping them is not going to be easy. Having said that, don’t give up. You can make a difference.
The way that people experience depression can be difficult to understand. So you can help simply by encouraging the person to talk about how they are feeling and just listen. Often they will just be wanting someone to listen, so avoid the urge to give advice. By listening and not being judgmental, you are likely to learn more about what the sufferer is really experiencing and will leave the door open to conversations in future.
Let them know you care. This sounds so simple but is often overlooked. Even during the tough times when your attempts to connect might be rejected, be patient and let them know that you care and will be there to talk when they are ready.
When the timing is right, suggest that they seek professional help. Encourage them to read books written by others who are dealing with depression or who have been through the experience. This will help them to see that they are not alone and that others who have been through the same experiences have found a way out.
Finally, you need to keep yourself in good shape. Supporting someone who is depressed can be exhausting, physically and mentally. Set time aside to get rest and to exercise so that you are in the best possible condition to be an active supporter.
Dealing with depression can be tough for those closest to the sufferer. However, your support can make a difference; sometimes it can be a very significant contribution to the recovery process. So keep faith and persist. You will be making a difference.
